[en] Highlights: • Nuclear quantum effects play a major role in charge transfer through hydrogen bonds. • Simple coordinate determines the amount of charge transfer for any hydrogen bond. • Transparent model allows us to accurately estimate condensed phase charge transfer. Upon hydrogen bond formation, electronic charge density is transferred between the donor and acceptor, impacting processes ranging from hydration to spectroscopy. Here we use ab initio path integral simulations to elucidate the role of nuclear quantum effects in determining the charge transfer in a range of hydrogen bonded species in the gas and liquid phase. We show that the quantization of the nuclei gives rise to large changes in the magnitude of the charge transfer as well as its temperature dependence. We then explain how a single geometric parameter determines the charge transfer through the hydrogen bond. These results thus demonstrate that nuclear quantum effects are vital for the accurate description of charge transfer and offer a physically transparent way to understand how hydrogen bonding gives rise to it.